“It is better to be alone than in bad company.” – George Washington
Other people do form opinions about you based on your group associations. This is also why good employees leave bad teams. They simply do not want to be associated with a group that has a bad reputation. They rarely hang around to try and improve that reputation; they get away from it as fast as they can.
For the sake of argument perhaps you spend time with a group of people and you are not a bit like them. You happen to be the ‘odd person out’ so-to-speak. How long does it take for someone who is not part of the group to determine that you are not like the others? Will people even take the time to notice that you are different, or will you just get lumped into the group?
onsider these statements:
“Oh, yes I know who you mean, he hangs around outside with the rest of the bad attitude gang.”
“Good luck getting cooperation from that team. We call them the department of how can I NOT help you.”
Let’s put other people and their opinions aside for a moment. Have you ever considered the impact that the people you spend time with have on you, your outlook and your success? How do the people around you make you feel?
Now, wait just one minute. Does anybody MAKE you feel anything? No of course not. You know that you are responsible for your thoughts and emotions. But to think that the people around you do not influence your thoughts and emotions is not very realistic.
Have you ever been really excited about an idea, only to share it with others and walk away feeling completely discouraged?
Have you ever felt completely discouraged about a situation, only to discuss it with a friend or group of friends who help you see the upside of that same situation?
Then you know the power of associating yourself with the right people over the wrong people. The wrong people drain your energy and stomp on your dreams. The right people help you feel inspired and motivated. When you spend time with the right people, you look forward to it; you don’t dread it or think of it as an obligation.
Try to minimize the time you spend with the negative people in your life. Sure, fall out of touch with those who you don’t really need to be around. When you find you must be around negative influences, protect yourself. Do not share your important thoughts and dreams with them. Do not give their negativity any power over you, when you leave them, leave their thoughts and attitudes behind. Do not carry them with you, do not mull over any discouraging words they have uttered.
Spend time with good company and your own company over bad company.
Hope you find yourself in good company this week!
Posted: February 20th, 2012 under Leadership, Personal Development, Professional development.
Tags: bad company, bad reputation, birds of a feather, George Washington, I’m not like them, in bad company, odd person out