Why Not Now?
It is surprising that there is not a diet pill that guarantees weight loss at the rate of one pound per minute. It is probably in development right now. I sure hope it will have a built-in timer so that it stops before someone vanishes. Oh, so you think I am being silly? Maybe I am. I remain amazed at the number of people who after years of eating whatever they like wish to become model thin in a short period of time. I do not always understand the people who avoid exercise for years, yet expect to be in shape to run a marathon within two weeks.
The desire for instant gratification does not just govern our diet and fitness goals, it can also pervade our relationships. We want instant self-help. We want one approach that will make us popular, loved and we want that one approach to work on everybody we know.
Well maybe some of you can successfully train for a marathon in two weeks. Most of us cannot. The same thing is true when it comes to building successful working relationships. This is why I was glad to see Dr. David Fraser suggest a systematic approach to better and stronger relationships. In ‘Relationships Made Easy for the Business Professional’ (available on Amazon.com), Dr. Fraser addresses the need for instant gratification by stating, “Everything will be wonderful in a week, but only in your dreams. What a pity to miss out on all the benefits and growth you could have had because you expected to complete the learning process in a week and without any effort.” In other words, it takes time to build relationships and it takes time to build your relationship building skills. The time you invest is more than worth it.
Think about the other skills you have mastered. Perhaps you are a top notch project manager or a strong technical lead. You did not acquire these skills overnight. You gathered knowledge and experience and then you synthesized your knowledge and experience in a way that allowed you to use both. So it is with In ‘Relationships Made Easy for the Business Professional’, Dr. Fraser outlines twelve steps for you to learn and master. Not just to read about, but steps for you to incorporate into your life – every day. Starting with attention to others and ending with love (as-in respect and compassion for others) you can learn at your own pace and you can take what you learn and use it, creating experiences that allow you to integrate knowledge and practice in a way that works for you.
If you want to have strong relationships be prepared to go the distance. But remember that like with a good exercise and diet program, every change you make in the right direction does bring you improvements and does make you stronger. Each step you take and in the case of ‘Relationships Made Easy for the Business Professional’, each step you master will bring you positive results. Why not start now?
Posted: June 3rd, 2011 under Leadership, Personal Development, Professional development.
Tags: build strong relationships, business relationships, Dr. David Fraser, instant gratification, master steps, Relationships Made Easy, Relationships made easy for the business professional, self-help