The Art of Appreciation
This just in, experts have learned that saying ‘Thank you’ does not cause physical pain. It is completely safe to express appreciation to your friends, family and colleagues. Not only is it safe, it could actually be beneficial to you and those who receive your appreciation.
Apparently some people receive more value from positive reinforcement and recognition than they do from a monetary reward.
At their best, a person who is motivated by appreciation can be creative, warm and charismatic. They can be very clear communicators. Other people will be drawn to them and they frequently play the role of team peace keeper. However, if you allow this person to feel that they are not valued, you risk turning them from peaceful to problematic.
If a person who needs to feel appreciated believes that appreciation is not forthcoming, they will become disgruntled. They may internalize hard feelings until they burst forth in big dramatic ways. They may allocate their time and attention to areas where their need for appreciation is fulfilled.
Some people will let you know that they need appreciation. These are the people who complete something, tell you about it and then when you do not say ‘Thank you’ they say ‘And by the way you are welcome!’ Not everyone will be so obvious. If you are in the habit of expressing thanks to your team, you may never have an issue; if you are not in the habit of expressing thanks to your team you may have a problem.
If you find yourself watching a team member go from happy and productive to apathy and withdrawn and perhaps even to hostile, ask yourself, “When was the last time I thanked this person for their contribution?”
Even if you personally do not crave appreciation, remember that others do, it never hurts to say ‘Thank you’.
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